Saying No more often to set boundaries, good or bad idea:

Saying No more often to set boundaries, good or bad idea:

Saying “No” more often to set boundaries is generally a good idea — but it depends on how and why you’re doing it.

Why it’s a good idea:

Protects your energy and mental health: Overcommitting leads to burnout. Saying no creates space for rest and focus.

Clarifies relationships: People learn what to expect from you — and respect you more when you respect yourself.

Increases authenticity:  You stop doing things out of guilt or obligation, and start living more in line with your values.

Improves effectiveness: By saying no to things that don’t matter, you can say yes to things that do.

What to watch out for: 

Tone and delivery matter: A blunt or defensive “no” can harm relationships. A kind but firm no works better.

Don’t overcorrect: Saying “no” too often without offering alternatives or explanations can come off as cold or rigid.

Know your reasons: Saying no out of fear or avoidance can be limiting. But saying no to preserve your integrity is empowering.

Pro Tip:

Instead of a flat “No,” try:

“I’m not available for that right now.”

“That’s not something I can commit to.”

“Let me think about it and I will get back to you.

Shervan K Shahhian