Understanding The Psychology of Money:


Psychology of Money:


The psychology of money looks at how people think, feel, and behave around money. It blends psychology, economics, and behavioral science to explain why we don’t always make “rational” financial decisions.

Here are the key themes:

1. Money as Emotion, Not Just Math
Money decisions are often driven by fear, greed, pride, guilt, or love rather than pure logic.

Example: someone may keep too much cash “for safety” even though investing would yield more over time.

2. Childhood Money Scripts
Early experiences with money (scarcity, abundance, secrecy) shape our “money script.”

Example: A child raised in financial insecurity may become overly frugal, even when wealthy.

3. Cognitive Biases in Money
Loss aversion: Losing $100 feels worse than gaining $100 feels good.

Present bias: People prefer small rewards now over bigger rewards later.

Overconfidence: Many think they can “beat the market” even when statistics suggest otherwise.

4. Money and Identity
Money becomes tied to self-worth, status, and identity.

Spending can be a way to signal success, while saving can represent discipline or control.

5. Happiness and Money
Research shows money increases happiness up to a point (around $75,000–$100,000/year in U.S. studies), but beyond that, how money is used matters more.

Experiences, generosity, and security create more well-being than luxury goods.

6. Cultural and Social Influence
Different cultures place different values on saving, debt, and spending.

Social comparison drives much financial behavior (“keeping up with the Joneses”).

7. Money Disorders
Psychologists recognize maladaptive patterns like:

Compulsive spending (oniomania)

Hoarding money out of fear

Financial infidelity (hiding money from partners)

Workaholism tied to financial validation

8. Money and Relationships
One of the top causes of conflict in couples.

Conflicts often reflect deeper issues: control, trust, security, independence.


Clinical Mental Health Perspective:


From a clinical psychology perspective, the psychology of money is less about financial advice and more about how money reflects — and often hides — deeper psychological processes.

Here’s a structured breakdown:

1. Money as a Psychological Symbol
Money is rarely just “currency.” Clinically, it often symbolizes:

Security (a buffer against danger or deprivation)

Freedom (ability to choose, escape, or be independent)

Power & Control (over others, or over uncertainty)

Self-worth (how much I “deserve” or how “valuable” I am)

In therapy, exploring what money represents to a client can reveal unconscious beliefs and conflicts.

 2. Money Scripts (Unconscious Beliefs)
Research in financial psychology shows many clients operate from “money scripts” formed in childhood, often inaccurate or rigid.

Four common maladaptive money scripts:

Money Avoidance — “Money is bad,” guilt about wealth.

Money Worship — “More money will fix all my problems.”

Money Status — “My net worth = my self-worth.”

Money Vigilance — “I must save every penny, spend little, or I’ll be unsafe.”

Therapy helps uncover and challenge these scripts.

3. Money Disorders
Psychologists have identified dysfunctional patterns around money, often tied to anxiety, trauma, or identity:

Compulsive buying disorder (spending to regulate emotions)

Gambling disorder (risk-taking as escape or thrill)

Financial hoarding (fear-driven over-saving)

Financial infidelity (lying about money to partners)

Workaholism (seeking self-worth through earning)

4. Money and Trauma
Financial behavior often reflects unresolved trauma:

Growing up in scarcity → hypervigilance, hoarding, fear of loss.

Growing up in affluence but neglect → entitlement, compulsive spending, emptiness.

Clinically, money can be a reenactment of early wounds (e.g., recreating scarcity, overspending to feel nurtured, or using control of money as a way to master helplessness).

5. Money in Relationships
Money fights are often proxy battles about power, trust, intimacy, or control.

Couples therapy often reveals money conflicts are about:

Security vs. freedom needs

Equality vs. dependence struggles

Trust vs. secrecy issues

Exploring these helps shift the focus from numbers to needs.

 6. Therapeutic Approaches
Psychodynamic therapy: Explores unconscious meaning of money, family money narratives, and transferences.

CBT: Challenges irrational money beliefs (“If I spend, I’ll end up homeless”).

Financial therapy: Integrates psychology + personal finance planning.

Motivational interviewing: Helps with ambivalence around change (spending, debt, saving).

Mindfulness-based approaches: Develop awareness of emotional triggers tied to financial behavior.

7. Money & Mental Health Cycle
Financial stress ↔ mental health problems (depression, anxiety, substance use) create a feedback loop.

Example: Anxiety → avoidance of bills → more financial stress → more anxiety.

Therapy breaks the cycle by addressing both emotional regulation and practical coping strategies.

In short: Clinically, the psychology of money is less about “smart spending” and more about uncovering the hidden emotional life of money — how it represents security, love, control, and identity, and how those meanings shape mental health and relationships.

Shervan K Shahhian

Understanding the Broke Mentality:

Understanding the Broke Mentality:

The “broke mentality” refers to a mindset that perpetuates financial struggle, regardless of a person’s actual income or resources. It’s less about lacking money and more about how someone thinks about money, success, work, and value. Understanding it can help in breaking free from limiting beliefs and patterns.

Core Traits of a Broke Mentality:

Scarcity Thinking

Belief: “There’s never enough” — money, opportunities, time.

Consequence: Fear-based decisions, hoarding, or impulsive spending out of fear of missing out.

Short-Term Focus

Prioritizing immediate gratification over long-term stability.

Examples: Constantly spending on wants instead of saving or investing.

Blaming External Circumstances

Belief: “I can’t get ahead because of the economy, my job, my background…”

Consequence: Lack of personal responsibility and initiative.

Avoidance of Financial Literacy

Thinking money is too complicated, boring, or not for “people like me.”

Leads to ignoring budgeting, debt, or investment planning.

Negative Views of Wealth and Wealthy People

Belief: “Money is evil,” or “Rich people are greedy.”

Subconscious self-sabotage: rejecting wealth to remain morally “clean.”

Underestimating Self-Worth

Charging too little, not negotiating, or not pursuing better opportunities.

Often rooted in fear, insecurity, or lack of self-value.

Lack of Vision or Goal Setting

No clear plan or dream that requires financial growth.

Living reactively instead of proactively.

Examples in Action:

Someone receives a large tax refund and immediately spends it on luxuries rather than debt or savings.

A person stays in a dead-end job for years, believing they “can’t do better.”

A small business owner resists investing in marketing or hiring help because “it costs too much,” stalling growth.

Breaking Free from the Broke Mentality:

Develop a Growth Mindset — Believe you can learn, grow, and change your financial life.

Practice Delayed Gratification — Prioritize long-term wealth over short-term pleasure.

Learn Financial Literacy — Budgeting, saving, investing are learnable skills.

Set Clear Financial Goals — Make your money serve a purpose.

Change Your Environment — Spend time with people who have a healthier relationship with money.

Reprogram Money Beliefs — Challenge ideas like “I’ll never be rich” or “Money is bad.”

Shervan K Shahhian